Thank You Lord for this day! Thank You for helping me finish my long overdue assignments. Thank You for my kwentuhan with Ate Mai. Thank You for TFP’s email, my heart really jumped for joy! Thank You because I am now one step closer to coming back to teaching. Thank You for friends who rejoiced with me as I update them with this good news. Thank You for their expressed support and for their willingness to be a part of my application journey! Thank You for their moral support, Lord. Thank You for opening this door to me. Thank You!
Times like this when I am missing my school days as a student and as a teacher, and would just want to spend my time reminiscing, this song – our school’s farewell song – would always come to mind. Singing this to myself brings all those sweet memories back to life. 🙂
It hurts and pains my heart
To leave sweet memories back
To part and bid goodbye
To friends I truly love
But I have to face the world
Go out and try to survive
To act on the stage of life
And to perform my part
Let’s cherish all sweet memories
Let us forget what might have been
The fun, the jokes we have shared
Tears of joy we’ll remember
From my heart to you, my dear friend
May this parting be not the end
We’ll be together in dreams and in prayers
And let’s remember friends are forever
Till then, till we meet again
My dear friends
I miss being in school. I miss my classmates and teachers then. I miss my students and my co-teachers. I miss my school life. I miss FCPC. I miss my dear friends – the friends I truly love. ❤
Can’t believe iiyak ako. Bigla na lang nag-ring yung bell nung sinabi niyang, “Ganun talaga Jas. Minsan kailangan mo ring maiwan.”
Minsan? Excuse me lang. Lagi niyo na akong iniiwan. For the past days, iba-iba kasabay kong maglunch. Pano naging minsan yun? Lagi. Sanay na yata kayong wala ako!
Big deal pala sakin yun. Akala ko kebs lang. *wink!* Umagos luha ko pero di ko pinigil kahit nasa gitna kami ng Starmall. Wala e. Kailangan kong mag-inarte.
Ang drama. HAHA True friend ko nga sila, kasi keri kong magdrama sa kanila at maglabas ng tampo kung nagtatampo man! Hahahayey!
Kumusta araw mo? Anong nararamdaman mo? Anong nagpasaya sayo? May pinanghihinayangan ka ba? Nagpakatotoo ka ba? Binigay mo ba ang best mo? Naging mabuti ka bang kaibigan, titser, anak, kapatid, o pasahero? Na-share mo ba ang dakilang pag-ibig at Salita ng Diyos?
Kinilig ka ba ngayong araw? Nakita mo si crush? Kailan ka huling umakyat ng bubong para mag-stargazing? May bago ka bang cut-out painting? Nagkikita pa ba kayo ni Cha? Tapos na ba yung librong binabasa mo? Ubos na ba labada mo? Naglinis ka ba ng kwarto? Nabawasan ba santambak mong papel?
Kumusta na ang relasyon mo sa Diyos?
I never had a guy friend as close as this one. We talk about anything and everything under the sun. We spend more time together than we do with our other friends. I share him my thoughts, he affirms me, and I smile. He appreciates me and I thank him. And oh, he rebukes my thoughts, too, if necessary, and his words get me to rethink my views and opinions on things.
I can say I have a lot of friends: Best friend, close friends, high school friends, college friends, new friends, random friends, and even facebook friends! Oh, I thank God for giving me such wonderful friends! (Now, I’m just waiting for Him to give me a boyfriend. Hihi. Just kidding.)
Today, let me share to you the art of befriending a new person that I have mastered from my experiences. But first let me define a new person by giving you some examples:
- the one sitting beside you in a bus
- a dormmate who came in the laundry area while you were washing your undies
- a classmate who came in late at the first day of class
- a schoolmate who for the first time ate lunch where you regularly eat with your friends
- the newest neighbor at your street
- the barker who told you which jeepney to ride
- the guard at the bank who always smiled at you as you enter
- a mother who joined your table in a fastfood chain
- a guy selling earrings at the overpass
- a girl grilling barbecues at the street corner
Whoever that new person is, if you desire to befriend him or her, you should decide to make steps to know him or her better and then do them. If now you still don’t know what to do, I have some tips for you. 🙂
- Smile. A friendship starts with a smile. Through this, you are communicating that you are happy to see him or her and would be happy to talk with him or her, too. If he or she smiles back, be glad and keep smiling.
- Speak up. Say hi or hello (while still smiling). On my experience, I always start our conversation by asking a question. If I’m on a bus, I say, “Where are you headed?” If inside the classroom, “What did our prof just say?” If on the street I say, “Excuse me, I am just new in this place. Do you know how could I go to that place?” Learn to ask the right question depending on the situation. Be sure that you would listen to the answer.
- Say your name. Introduce yourself right away so that he or she won’t be hesitant to talk with you. Say a little something about yourself or why you would want to talk with him or her (make it brief, not more than 10 seconds). Ask his or her name. This is important to make your conversations more personal. Calling people by name is a way of recognizing the worth of a person. If you call a new person by his or her name, that person will feel important and accepted.
Sometimes, I introduce myself after being comfortable with the person, saying “Oh, I forgot to introduce myself. I’m Jas, and you are?” Other times, I start the conversation by saying, “Hello, I am Jas, and I just wanted to talk with you so that we won’t be bored while washing our undies. Is it okay with you? What’s your name by the way?”
There. I have gained new friends because of the 3S – Smile, Speak up, Say your name. Those need not be done step-by-step. Just make sure you do it all. 🙂
And one last thing: In order to befriend someone, be a friend. 🙂
*This is in response to the Daily Prompt: Why Can’t We Be Friends?