Thank You Lord for this day! Thank You for helping me finish my long overdue assignments. Thank You for my kwentuhan with Ate Mai. Thank You for TFP’s email, my heart really jumped for joy! Thank You because I am now one step closer to coming back to teaching. Thank You for friends who rejoiced with me as I update them with this good news. Thank You for their expressed support and for their willingness to be a part of my application journey! Thank You for their moral support, Lord. Thank You for opening this door to me. Thank You!
Times like this when I am missing my school days as a student and as a teacher, and would just want to spend my time reminiscing, this song – our school’s farewell song – would always come to mind. Singing this to myself brings all those sweet memories back to life. 🙂
It hurts and pains my heart
To leave sweet memories back
To part and bid goodbye
To friends I truly love
But I have to face the world
Go out and try to survive
To act on the stage of life
And to perform my part
Let’s cherish all sweet memories
Let us forget what might have been
The fun, the jokes we have shared
Tears of joy we’ll remember
From my heart to you, my dear friend
May this parting be not the end
We’ll be together in dreams and in prayers
And let’s remember friends are forever
Till then, till we meet again
My dear friends
I miss being in school. I miss my classmates and teachers then. I miss my students and my co-teachers. I miss my school life. I miss FCPC. I miss my dear friends – the friends I truly love. ❤
I never had a co-teacher as close as this one. We talk about many things. We get to spend more time together because of our schedule. She shares her many thoughts and ideas, I have no choice but to listen HAHA. When I agree with what she says, I affirm her. When I disagree, of course, I express my view. In fairness, she usually reconsiders her opinions after.
We eat carbonara together. One time, the carbonara house was closed, so we tried eating siomai. We usually have meaningful conversations (though she actually does most of the talking) while having merienda or dinner. It’s often just like that. Our talks got deeper when we had our first dinner at Jollibee, the first time we talked about more personal things about ourselves. Yeah.
She is smart. No doubt about it. She loves encountering and solving tricky Math problems. She insists on answering with me and my contestants as we review. She is also engaged with words, and honestly, I am sometimes annoyed whenever she critically analyzes my jokes, weighing whether my jokes are logical or not. URGH. Oh well, but really, I feel happy for her whenever she achieves something because of her wit. 😉
She loves music. She borrows my ukulele when she’s not busy or when she just feels like it! The moment I start playing the guitar, she would sit and play the ukulele. Whatever song I play, she would try to follow. When she can’t keep up, she asks for the chords of the song. We learn to play songs together, but only after she has internalized the lyrics of the song! Yeah, very Jas.
We ride a jeepney on our way home after college classes. Sometimes I leave her, especially when I have dismissed my class much earlier than her. When I’m in the mood, I wait for her, but not when there are mosquitoes. As we travel, we usually share our thoughts and ideas about some random topics. We also get to talk about our plans for the next morning, or for the next years.
She is a real friend, someone I’m comfortable with. I share her my plans, my concerns, my comments, my joys, and my observations. She listens sincerely and responds appropriately (as much as she can hehe). Indeed, we learn much from each other – from our intellectual conversations to our friendly talks. One of our coaches back in high school always teases us when she sees us together, but I always say that we are just friends.
Well, yeah, she is a good friend and we click in many things and we also think alike (because we have great minds haha) BUT I don’t think we’ll go deeper than that. We are really meant to be just friends, I know.
We are good friends. Just that. I feel that way for her and I am sure that she feels the same way, too. 🙂
I once said that she is the type of girl I could have forever with – friendship that lasts forever. She agreed. Since then, I usually say it when others ask about us. I am happy that she is open to the idea of us being friends forever. Just that. Hehe.
Can’t believe iiyak ako. Bigla na lang nag-ring yung bell nung sinabi niyang, “Ganun talaga Jas. Minsan kailangan mo ring maiwan.”
Minsan? Excuse me lang. Lagi niyo na akong iniiwan. For the past days, iba-iba kasabay kong maglunch. Pano naging minsan yun? Lagi. Sanay na yata kayong wala ako!
Big deal pala sakin yun. Akala ko kebs lang. *wink!* Umagos luha ko pero di ko pinigil kahit nasa gitna kami ng Starmall. Wala e. Kailangan kong mag-inarte.
Ang drama. HAHA True friend ko nga sila, kasi keri kong magdrama sa kanila at maglabas ng tampo kung nagtatampo man! Hahahayey!
Kumusta araw mo? Anong nararamdaman mo? Anong nagpasaya sayo? May pinanghihinayangan ka ba? Nagpakatotoo ka ba? Binigay mo ba ang best mo? Naging mabuti ka bang kaibigan, titser, anak, kapatid, o pasahero? Na-share mo ba ang dakilang pag-ibig at Salita ng Diyos?
Kinilig ka ba ngayong araw? Nakita mo si crush? Kailan ka huling umakyat ng bubong para mag-stargazing? May bago ka bang cut-out painting? Nagkikita pa ba kayo ni Cha? Tapos na ba yung librong binabasa mo? Ubos na ba labada mo? Naglinis ka ba ng kwarto? Nabawasan ba santambak mong papel?
Kumusta na ang relasyon mo sa Diyos?
I never had a guy friend as close as this one. We talk about anything and everything under the sun. We spend more time together than we do with our other friends. I share him my thoughts, he affirms me, and I smile. He appreciates me and I thank him. And oh, he rebukes my thoughts, too, if necessary, and his words get me to rethink my views and opinions on things.
I can say I have a lot of friends: Best friend, close friends, high school friends, college friends, new friends, random friends, and even facebook friends! Oh, I thank God for giving me such wonderful friends! (Now, I’m just waiting for Him to give me a boyfriend. Hihi. Just kidding.)
Today, let me share to you the art of befriending a new person that I have mastered from my experiences. But first let me define a new person by giving you some examples:
- the one sitting beside you in a bus
- a dormmate who came in the laundry area while you were washing your undies
- a classmate who came in late at the first day of class
- a schoolmate who for the first time ate lunch where you regularly eat with your friends
- the newest neighbor at your street
- the barker who told you which jeepney to ride
- the guard at the bank who always smiled at you as you enter
- a mother who joined your table in a fastfood chain
- a guy selling earrings at the overpass
- a girl grilling barbecues at the street corner
Whoever that new person is, if you desire to befriend him or her, you should decide to make steps to know him or her better and then do them. If now you still don’t know what to do, I have some tips for you. 🙂
- Smile. A friendship starts with a smile. Through this, you are communicating that you are happy to see him or her and would be happy to talk with him or her, too. If he or she smiles back, be glad and keep smiling.
- Speak up. Say hi or hello (while still smiling). On my experience, I always start our conversation by asking a question. If I’m on a bus, I say, “Where are you headed?” If inside the classroom, “What did our prof just say?” If on the street I say, “Excuse me, I am just new in this place. Do you know how could I go to that place?” Learn to ask the right question depending on the situation. Be sure that you would listen to the answer.
- Say your name. Introduce yourself right away so that he or she won’t be hesitant to talk with you. Say a little something about yourself or why you would want to talk with him or her (make it brief, not more than 10 seconds). Ask his or her name. This is important to make your conversations more personal. Calling people by name is a way of recognizing the worth of a person. If you call a new person by his or her name, that person will feel important and accepted.
Sometimes, I introduce myself after being comfortable with the person, saying “Oh, I forgot to introduce myself. I’m Jas, and you are?” Other times, I start the conversation by saying, “Hello, I am Jas, and I just wanted to talk with you so that we won’t be bored while washing our undies. Is it okay with you? What’s your name by the way?”
There. I have gained new friends because of the 3S – Smile, Speak up, Say your name. Those need not be done step-by-step. Just make sure you do it all. 🙂
And one last thing: In order to befriend someone, be a friend. 🙂
*This is in response to the Daily Prompt: Why Can’t We Be Friends?