I get upset when people shout angrily. I get deeply disappointed. 😦
I can’t find any valid reason for a person to shout.
I have seen and heard people shout. Let me call them the “shouters”.
Most of the time, I don’t need to ask the shouters why they do the shouting because they themselves say it aloud:
- To release anger in the hope that they would feel better. “I’m so angry, I would burst. I need to let this go!”,
- To express disappointment towards something or usually, towards someone. “I am not happy with what you are doing. Will you please stop that and do what I expect you to do?”
- To call someone’s attention and get them to listen to their feelings or opinions. “Hey, look at me! Listen to me! I’m talking to you!”
Whatever their reasons are, I still get upset when they shout at me or at anybody. Hmm, sadly, they actually see shouting as the best way to communicate at the moment.
If you are a shouter, please take time to read these three reasons why you should not shout:
- Most of the people I know don’t like a shouter. They don’t like to receive the stress a shouter brings. If you shout to feel better and release your anger, please know that your shouting makes us, hearers, feel worse. Think of us also, thank you. 🙂
- Giving commands in a harsh way is the best way to annoy a person. It will only lead to greater misunderstandings and disappointments. With that manner of expressing, do not be surprised to receive a negative response.
- Honestly, I don’t like paying attention to someone who is scolding me. Well, who would want to? Even you do not like it, am I right? So, I advise you to avoid shouting when calling someone’s attention; you’re only giving that person another reason not to listen.
If you are a “victim” of a shouter, here are some thoughts that might be helpful. I do this when I encounter shouters.
- Keep quiet. Don’t make things worse by shouting back. Let the shouter release his or her anger for not more than five minutes.
- Speak softly. Express what you feel in a nice manner even when someone shouts at you and then hope that he or she would calm down.
- Pay attention, but not too much. Give them the attention they need or demand. Listen to what they are trying to say.
- Lastly and most importantly, forgive them. I’m pretty sure they do not know what they are doing at the time they shouted. Hurting you is not their real intention, so learn to forgive them.
I hope you would find these helpful and would apply it to your daily lives. 🙂
“Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19